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While teaching I had an opportunity to meeting Jackie Brewton (a successful motivational speaker) who taught a great lesson on Dreams / Decisions / Destinies – The Sex Talk Every Guy Needs to Hear – I trust you with my Life. You can get an idea of how influential she is by viewing a video trailer of her talk at – (http://jackiebrewton.com/the-sex-talk/) You can also find her at (http://jackiebrewton.com).
Jackie knew how I used my Legal Document Contract with my daughters (and
how I used it in my health classes); she suggested I develop a similar
contract for Males. Through talking with high school students she
discovered the girls were now aggressively pursuing the guys and believe
it or not, she believed guys had to learn how to protect their futures
while maintaining their cool factor. She had become very sympathetic to
guys and their issues involved in controlling their male sexual nature
in a culture that encourages sexual activity.
One of Jackie’s points was, when you have sex before you marry, you’re
telling the other person “here is my future, do with it what you will.
If you won $100,000, you wouldn't do that with your money (here's my money do with it what you will). Why would you do that with your body? Be as possessive of your body as you are with your money. Your
destiny as a man is to protect and provide for your family. You can
start doing that right now.” Thus, the Legal Contract (Male) was born.
My husband wrote it out in about 5 minutes. Who knows a man’s sexual
nature better than a father with beautiful teenage daughters?
The Male Document is a selfish document — it screams this is a temporary
relationship; you are temporary, if you get pregnant don’t contact me.
If I get an STD, I’m going to assume I got it from you, I’ll sue.
Whereas the Female Document was a serious look at the cost of a sexual
relationship which is usually solely paid by the female, the Male
Document is a tongue in cheek unromantic cold assessment of the function
of sex between two unmarried people. This is not love, we are not a
couple, and you are temporary so move on without making a scene. This
document made the girls very angry. They saw the male view of a sexual relationship
was different than they had imagined/ or dreamed of. The guys on the
other hand did not like this document at all. As this document was read,
the hostility from the girls was palpable. Besides, Mrs. Mccoy “I spend
all this time and effort to get a girl to have sex with, if I hand her
this…”
With the war on men in colleges, the boys might need a document like
this to protect them from a charge of rape, attempted rape, sexual
misconduct. In college, all there has to be is a complaint that
__________ forced her to…, and guys are getting expelled from college,
often without due process.
If you are not aware, as a result of debunked claims that there is
widespread sexual assault on women on college campuses, there are severe
regulations (pushed by the United States Department of Education’s
Office for Civil Rights (OCR) in 2011) for adjudicated cases of sexual
harassment or sexual violence. The regulations allow universities to
circumvent due process laws and other standards of the criminal justice
system. Colleges need only show a “preponderance of evidence” (50.01
percent) that an assault occurred rather than the usual criminal
standard of “beyond a reasonable doubt.” In other words, because we
think you more likely than not committed an assault, we can expel you
from said college which can ruin your reputation and prevent you from
being admitted to another college. There is no due process in sexual
misconduct cases. There is no opportunity to discover facts, there is no
opportunity to confront a witness and present a defense. In a effort to
protect alleged victims, new regulations have completely abolished the
rights of the accused.
What is really crazy, is that Jackie and I were ahead of our time.
Check out the article published July 7, 2015 in the National Review
Online.
Advocacy group distributes sexual 'consent contracts' to college students
The Affirmative Consent Project, which advocates for "yes
means yes" sexual consent policies, has been distributing "consent
contracts" to college students across the country.
The contract states in big
red letters: "YES! We agree to have SEX!" (emphasis original), and
asks participants to take a photo together holding the contract. If a camera
can't be found, then the participants would need to fill out the form included
on the back of the contract.
The group provided the Washington Examiner with
an image of the form, which simply states that on this date (fill-in-the-blank)
"We agree to have consensual sex with one another." The form also
provides spaces for two parties to sign and print their names.
Sex Contract Recommendation -- Weblink at:
http://www.nationalreview.com/article/420870/college-affirmative-consent-contract
This article discusses sexual contracts in more detail and shows that some states have even created laws concerning this matter.  
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